Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down. As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome person for kindling strife. The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts.
— Proverbs 26:20-22

We have all been around people wanting to start trouble. And frankly most of us if not all have been that person! The deadly conversation starters include but are not limited to…

“Did you hear about _______?… Did you know that Tony ________” 

One powerful way to examine any conversation you are having about someone is this… would I want that person to be talking about me like this? Another good motive examiner is Would I say these things to the person I’m talking about and will I? If you hear someone start the conversation like this, please pay attention and stop anything that sounds like gossip. 

Look, life is going to have its troubles and quarrels. It starts early in life, and continues until we leave this ball of dirt we call the Earth, so the way you handle it will determine the outcome of so many situations in your life. So handle it well and make sure you help others navigate it as the scripture teaches. What Proverbs is telling us is that when quarrels start, the words spoken either cause the ambers of a fire to go out, or cause the ambers to start a fire. Gossip either starts or stops the fire. Period. What the scripture is saying here is that when we are party to something like this, we have an obligation to shut it down. We have an obligation to find a loving way to stop the gossip and bring life to the situation. Proverbs 18:21 says, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” You have the power of life and death in youth mouth so be on guard. 

This principle works for everyone, not just followers of Jesus. So help everyone in your life speaks words of life and not death. Words that encourage and not words that tear others down. 

Ephesians 4:49 says,

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” This means that we need to be lifting people up with our words to other people and not tearing them down. 

May we find ourselves speaking life and not death about others. May the gossip in our lives end with us, and may we be people stopping quarreling and strife and not stirring it up. 


Check this video out to see what people on the street say about gossip, and then reveal how they felt about the one being gossiped about… Do you agree with their assessments?…